This isn't saying that all men want their wives to look like the latest supermodel.
Wives can do a great deal to increase their husbands' confidence in their romantic skills through encouragement and redefining what romance looks like.įor example, a wife may balk when her husband asks her to go along to the hardware store, but it's likely that he's asking because he sees it as a time they can get away as a couple and hang out together. They are plagued by internal hesitations, perceiving the risk of humiliation and failure as too high. True, many men appear to be unromantic clods, but it doesn't mean that they want to be that way! Men want to be romantic, but they just doubt their ability to pull it off.
Men enjoy romance, but doubt their skills to be romantic. Men can choose whether to dwell on these images and memories or dismiss them, but they can't control when these images appear.Ĩ. Even the most godly husband cannot avoid noticing a woman who dresses in a way that draws attention to her body.Įven if it is just a glance, these visual images are stored away in the male brain as a sort of "visual rolodex" that will reappear without any warning. And, this doesn't just mean the guys with wandering eyes. This means the vast majority of men respond to visual images when it comes to women. This is why making sex a priority in marriage is so incredibly important!ħ. When a husband feels rejected sexually, he not only feels his wife is rejecting him physically, but that she is somehow rejecting his life as a husband, provider and man. The flipside of this coin also carries a profoundly negative affect. It gives them an increasing sense of confidence and well-being that carries over into every other area of his life. When men feel their wives desire them sexually, it has a profound effect on the rest of their lives. This is the final installment.I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!Ħ. If they were all one part, where would the body be? Theological Truth: 1 Corinthians 12:18-19: But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as He wanted them to be. It would be boring if it weren't that way. You Should Be Like Me.- Secular Truth: Every person is unique and can't be a carbon copy of anyone else. Theological Truth: Hebrews 12:14a: Make every effort to live in peace with all and to be holy.Ħ. The important issue is deciding what we need to change about ourselves and what we don't. People who refuse to change, stagnate themselves and their marriages. I Shouldn't Have to Change.- Secular Truth: Marriage requires change. Theological Truth: 1 Peter 5:5b: Clothe yourselves with humility because "God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble."ĥ. You aren't owed anything for what you choose to do. You do what you do because, at some level, you choose to do it. Secular Truth: Your spouse doesn't really "owe" you anything for what you do. Theological Truth: Philippians 4:19: And my God will meet all your needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Jesus.Ĥ. Your needs can best be met through a variety of sources. Secular Truth: No one person can meet all your needs. Theological Truth: 1 Corinthians 7:28b: But those who marry will face many troubles in this life.ģ. It means you and your partner need each other's help to work out personality flaws and weaknesses. If It Takes Hard Work, We Must Not Be Right for Each Other.- Secular Truth: Hard work in marriage is the norm, not the exception. Theological Truth: Romans 2:1: You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.Ģ. Marriage problems are rarely one person's fault. It's All Your Fault.- Secular Truth: It takes two to tango. From the book "The Lies We Believe" by Dr.
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